Tuesday, November 19, 2013

A Stepmother's Journey-Dealing with Lies

Ok so this might look like a mini rant, but unfortunately it is something a lot of stepmother's and fathers themselves have to deal with on a regular basis. And my story isn't even half as bad as some that I hear. It's unfortunate that stuff like this happens, I wish people would realize that their efforts to make their ex and significant other miserable only ends up hurting the children in the situation who don't know how to overlook angry nonsense. They take everything a parent says to heart because they are naturally innocent and trusting and don't believe anyone close to them would lie to them. When kids do come to the realization that not everything is as perfect as they thought, it is a heart breaking and shocking time for them.

This is a section taken from the bill our lawyer sent to us. It says "Telephone call with opposing counsel staff regarding Petitioner claiming to have order that Respondent (us) has to agree with the physicians treatment plan." And the cost? $25. So the ex told a lie that she had court documents that didn't exist and it cost $25 to set her lie straight.

First, if you claim to be a Christian you should act like one. Proverbs 12:22 says "The Lord detests lying lips, but he delights in men who are truthful." Lying is not a very "Christian" thing to do. You apparently don't believe in what it takes to be a Christian so why put up a front? Faking to be a Christian just to make people think you are a good person and seem like a good mom gets old after a while. The mask is starting to crack and its only a matter of time before the real you starts seeping out.

Obviously this isn't the first lie that has ever been told in our case, but from now on I am not going to keep quiet about the injustice that is going on. I'm not crazy enough to think I can change the oppositions mind but I can speak out for the truth and demand justice. Exposing stuff like this is just another way to fight for the rights of my stepsons. I will never stop fighting and you will never shut me up.

And finally, the fact that we had to pay $25 just to expose her lie is bull crap. I think we should be reimbursed that money, don't you? I mean that's like a weeks worth of food for my girls, Christmas presents, could have gone into any of the kid's college fund...anything like that would have been so much better than ending up in the hands of a lawyer.

So tell me your story...when has someone else's lie cost you?

1 comment:

  1. oh honey, that is so rough! so many want to make the "evil step-mom" a thing, when i've found it's more of the birth moms that are "evil". a child should never be made a pawn and grown ups need to act like grown ups!! the marriage is over. harboring anger over that is going to do nothing. kids come first.